Male vs. Female Maine Coons: Understanding the Differences
- Amber Bolick-Helms

- Feb 8
- 3 min read
Maine Coons are beloved for their majestic size, luxurious coats, and affectionate personalities. But one common question potential owners ask is: Should I get a male or a female? While both genders share many wonderful traits, there are a few differences that may help you decide which is the best fit for your home and lifestyle.
Size & Appearance
One of the most talked-about differences between male and female Maine Coons is their size.
• Males: Typically, male Maine Coons are larger, with a more robust and muscular build. They can weigh between 15 to 25 pounds or even more in some cases. Their faces tend to be broader, giving them a lion-like appearance.
• Females: Females are generally more petite, usually weighing between 12 to 15 pounds. However, some females can grow surprisingly large, rivaling their male counterparts. Their features tend to be more refined and elegant.
While size is often a deciding factor, it’s important to remember that every cat is unique, and genetics play a major role in how big they’ll ultimately grow. Some males may be on the smaller size and females growing larger.
Personality & Temperament
Both male and female Maine Coons are known for their friendly, intelligent, and playful nature, but there are some subtle differences in how they interact with their humans.
• Males: Often described as the “gentle giants” of the cat world, male Maine Coons tend to be goofy, social, and easygoing. They typically enjoy being the center of attention and are more likely to get along with multiple people in the household. They can be playful well into adulthood and love engaging with their owners.
• Females: While just as affectionate, female Maine Coons tend to form a stronger bond with one person rather than being equally social with everyone. When they choose their favorite human, they’re incredibly loyal, attentive and loving. Many owners describe their female Maine Coons as “Velcro cats” who stick to their person like glue.
Affection & Bonding
Both genders are affectionate, but they express their love in slightly different ways.
• Males often enjoy belly rubs, cuddles, and being handled more frequently. They’re generally less reserved and more openly affectionate with all family members.
• Females may be more selective with their affection, choosing one or two favorite humans to shower with love. Their loyalty is unmatched, and they tend to be more in tune with their person’s emotions.
If you’re looking for a social butterfly that loves everyone, a male might be the best choice. If you prefer a deep, one-on-one bond, a female could be the perfect match.
Energy Levels & Playfulness
Both males and females have high energy levels, especially as kittens, but there are some differences as they mature.
• Males tend to remain playful and kitten-like well into adulthood. They love interactive play, chasing toys, and engaging in silly antics to entertain their owners.
• Females are just as playful but may be a bit more focused. They tend to enjoy mentally stimulating games and interactive toys that challenge their intelligence.
Regardless of gender, Maine Coons thrive on engagement, so regular playtime is essential for both males and females.
Which One is Right for You?
At the end of the day, the best Maine Coon for you depends more on personality than gender. If you want a big, goofy cat that loves everyone, a male might be the way to go. If you’re looking for a deeply loyal companion who forms a strong one-on-one bond, a female will be your perfect match.
No matter which you choose, Maine Coons are an incredible breed that will bring endless love, laughter, and companionship.
If you're ready to find your perfect Maine Coon kitten, reach out to us today to learn more about our available kittens and upcoming litters!




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